Law #7 You Satisfy Needs when your beliefs are in line with reality

REALITY CHECK!

Are your beliefs "off the wall"?  If so, you'll never be able to satisfy Any Need based on an insane belief.  Common Sense here.  Have a look at your personal beliefs...do they make sense?  Can you improve them?  Personal growth will happen once you are able to improve upon existing beliefs that govern your behaviour.

So...how do you figure out what's wrong? And how to change it?  Well Hyrum says to start with having a look at your life and what is going wrong. What possible belief could you have that would give you the idea it's ok to act that way?  Are those behaviours going to get you to where you want to be? 

Once you have an idea for the behaviour you want to change, and belief you'd like to improve - now it's time to improve upon it!  What other belief would get you to where you want to be? (Remember you are not going to know the answer to this questions unless you did the previous exercises of writing down your goals and values).


Example:
Let's say your goal is to reach a particular level in your business or get a promotion, but for some reason it's just not happening.  During self-reflection you realize that your behaviour and actions are not in line with your goals (or values).  You finally figure out that it's all going back to your belief that you wanted to get the promotion because your peers, friends and family will respect you more.  So let's change that belief.  Satisfying a NEED should be someone you want to do for yourself.  So, let's make the new belief, I want to reach my next status level, or I want to get the promotion because I DESERVE IT.  Now your behaviour and actions are going to change.  And in the end, I bet you WILL reach your goal :)

Tomorrow is the start of a whole new week!  I wish you the best success this week in reaching your goals!

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Law #6 Your behaviour is a reflection of what you TRULY believe

So it's been awhile since I posted on here. I apologize for all of you who were checking everyday, waiting for the next post. I know there must be millions of you HAHAHA joking :)

This Law...Law #6 - makes sense to me and it's something I think about almost daily. 

Here's the Main Idea: 
"There is a clear connection between what a person believes and
what they do. Whenever a person’s behavior doesn’t seem to be
reflecting what they claim to believe, there are some conflicting
beliefs buried in there somewhere."

This makes obvious sense right? Obviously you would be doing what you believe in doing.  And yet - many of us SAY we want to be debt free, or we SAY we want to reach a high status level in our home business, or we SAY we are going to make more time for friends and family, or we SAY we are going to lose weight.  And yet.....somehow....for many of us....it just doesn't happen.

We are quick to blame other things, time, money...even blame other people for not reaching those goals.  But it all comes back to US.  Did you REALLY make the time to do the activities you SAID you wanted to do?  Did you actually BELIEVE you could do it?

To change a behaviour, or change the result, the outcome - then we need to change what you BELIEVE.

‘‘Sometimes our "beliefs" may actually be things we only think
we believe because of duty or the expectations of others. The
important thing to remember is that, in general, our behavior
does in fact reflect what we really believe, and if our behavior
doesn’t seem to be reflecting a consciously stated belief, we
should take a careful look at conflicting beliefs on our window.’’
-- Hyrum W. Smith

Let's revisit the idea of the Reality Model that Hyrum talks about.

1. What are the most widely accepted basic psychological needs?
the Need to LIVE
the need to LOVE AND BE LOVED
the need to FEEL IMPORTANT
the need to experience VARIETY

2. How we go about meeting these needs comes from our own beliefs

3. For every belief you have, you also have a set of rules which govern your behaviour - this is done subconsciously.

4. If the results from your behaviour meets your needs then your feedback is positive.
If you have negative feedback (did not reach the results you expected) then you need to re-asses your needs, your belief that you are using to satisfy those needs, AND your behaviour.

"Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results."

If you are not getting the results you want then work backwards to find what's wrong.
What behaviours or actions did you take in order to reach the result?
Are those actions in line with what you BELIEVE?
Is that belief going to help you create a set of rules to achieve your NEED?

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